Recovering the Magic of Christmas

There is something magical about Christmas to a child. The lights, the secrets, the treats. Magic that seems to disappear as time goes by and the responsibilities of adulthood take over. For many adults, Christmas can be the most stressful time of the year. How sad! What can be done to prevent this from happening? What can be done to recreate a magical and memorable Christmas? Read on for some tips and ideas.

Set Priorities

Ask yourself the following question: What do I want to remember about this Christmas? If you have spouse and children, you might also want to ask them the same question. For every person, the answer might be a little different, but choose what matters most for each family member.

Next, sit down and make a holiday schedule. Make one for the whole month of December, one for each week, and/or one for each day. Take a serious look at all the events and responsibilities of the season and see how each thing fits with your priorities. Will this event help you remember what you want to remember about this Christmas?

Once you’ve determined what events, etc. match your priorities, don’t be afraid to say “no” to the other things. If you say “yes” to everything, you won’t have time to truly enjoy the things that are important to you. You’ll also feel a lot of pressure and stress – exactly what we are trying to avoid. Remember, too, it isn’t being selfish to say “no.” If you don’t take care of yourself, you won’t be able to help others (including your own family).

Keep it Simple

This point follows closely with the last point, but here I want to cover more of the smaller details of the season. If my readers are are anything like me, you might be striving to have a “perfect” Christmas. I want a perfectly decked tree, a perfectly spread tablescape, and perfectly wrapped gifts. There is a big problem with that, however, since I can spend my whole Christmas season working and fretting over everything I do. When the holiday as passed, most people are not going to remember those things. What people will remember is the interactions between family members and friends (whether strained or pleasant) and the mood of the atmosphere (whether happy or sad). Choose to enjoy the moment rather than on fretting about everything being perfect.

Schedule Quiet Times

This point also ties in with setting priorities.  Make sure to schedule a few times throughout the month, where you can turn the noise off, sit quietly, and reflect on this season. During this time, you might sit on the floor and admire the lighted Christmas tree. You might lie on the couch and read Luke’s version of the Christmas story. You might stand perfectly still in the falling snow and catch snowflakes with your tongue. Whatever, you choose to do, be quiet and only think pleasant Christmas thoughts.

So, what do you want to remember about this Christmas? Whatever your answer might be, I wish you a very Merry and Magical Christmas!


My Top Favourite Non-Fiction Books

Who doesn’t love to read a good book? While I enjoy a good fiction book, I also love to read non-fiction books that add meaning and perspective to my life. I’m going to share with you four of my favourites.

God Speaks Your Love Language

“How to Feel and Reflect God’s Love”
by Gary Chapman

Dr. Chapman presents the five different love languages and explains that each of us has a dominant one. This is the language that makes us feel the most loved, and what we speak to show others our love. In human relationships, it is sometimes hard to understand the love languages that others are speaking. Also, it can be difficult to learn how to speak a new language so that you can positively connect with someone (although it is definitely worth it). The amazing thing is, that because God created each of us uniquely and gave us each a specific language, He completely understands and speaks all five love languages. Dr. Chapman explains that as we connect more deeply with God by speaking our love language, we will also see a major impact on our relationships with others.

I also have The Five Love Languages Singles Edition. Dr. Chapman has written editions for couples, teenagers, and children.


“Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman’s Soul”
by John and Stasi Eldredge

In a world where women are given many different messages about what femininity means, this book takes us right back to the Garden of Eden with the first woman Eve and explores three God-given desires and needs of a woman’s heart. The first time I read this book, it was like a gentle healing balm to my spirit. I truly began to understand myself as a woman and how much womanhood is a reflection of God’s own character. This book has nothing to do with the roles that women expected to play, but rather talks about what is hidden deeply within a woman’s heart. Not only do I encourage my female followers to read this book, I encourage the male ones, too. It will give a you glimpse into a woman’s heart and help you in your relationships.

I have yet to read it, but John Eldredge also has written a book for men called Wild at Heart. Let me know if you’ve read it and your thoughts in the comments below.

Yes or No

“The Guide to Better Decisions”
by Dr. Spencer Johnson

Written in story format, this book tells of a young man on a weekend hike ascending a mountain in the company of a guide and several experienced executives. While on the journey, he discovers three practical and three private questions to ask himself when making decisions. He also hears stories from his companions about professional and personal failures as well as triumphs and successes. Through hearing these stories, he realizes the importance of making good decisions. My version of the book also includes “The Map to Better Decisions” in a punch-out credit card-size format to carry with you. I encourage you to get a copy of this amazing book today!


“When to Say Yes How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life”
by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

The inside cover flap of this book says, “Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle…boundaries define who we are and who we are not.”

I’ve also had a giving personality and a desire to help others. That has been a great asset in many of my relationships, but it has also been a great liability. Too often, I have tried to “rescue” people from themselves. After reading this book, I finally realized that each person is ultimately responsible for their own behaviour and the consequences that follow. While I still strive to not be selfish, reading this book has helped me to see that God does not expect me to be continually hurt by others who are selfish and unwilling to help themselves. God loves me too much. Cloud and Townsend also point out that God has boundaries, and He sets an amazing example for us to follow. They discuss setting boundaries with parents, spouses, children, friends, coworkers, and even ourselves.

While I have found these books very inspiring, I would encourage you not read these in place of God’s Word but as amazing supplemental resources. I hope you enjoyed these reviews. Be sure to share your favourite non-fiction books in the comments.

Happy reading!